The Mother of Another's Child

Life can take you on a curvy up hill path or lead you through the easy streets. It all depends on the choices you make and the strength you have to follow through. Not all hard roads are that bad. The destination can be a wonderful thing just getting there can be the most difficult thing in your life. I speak from 12 years of experience. I am the mother of a 14 yr old and 4 yr old. One is my daughter of my heart the other the daughter of my blood and I love them both for everything they are and will be. I wouldn't change any of it for anything.

Raising a teenager is already trying at times now add in that she is not yours by blood and that she has been all but abandoned by her bio-mother it can make for some very hard times. A plus for our family and our direct relationship I have been here since 3 yrs old. I have a place in her heart as she has in mine. I might not have always been Mom but I've always been there no matter what I am called or thought of.

We have many moments that I wish never happened and I know I will have another go around in 9 or 10 yrs with my youngest. I will be more prepared for what is coming I hope.
The 'normal' teenage issues have been few and far between and easy to deal with it is the pyschological things that have been done or not done that is the hardest.
Trying to protect your child from their own mother is the hardest thing in the world. I never discourage contact or the love, just make sure I am always here to pick up the pieces from the damage that is caused again and again. That can be the most difficult thing to see your child fall to pieces by someone who should love them more then life themselves. The anger, frustration, and the rage at having someone in my childs life who I can't make disappear. I pray that it will change, that one day people will realize what they have neglected and be thankful and grateful for what they have and respect and care. Even if that day comes I will wake up every morning loving my girls for being themselves and go to bed each night loving them just a little more having been blessed to spent one more day with them. You know where to go with a doubt